{"id":6818,"date":"2014-09-25T11:44:36","date_gmt":"2014-09-25T18:44:36","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lesliedinaberg.com\/wordpress\/?p=6818"},"modified":"2014-09-25T11:44:36","modified_gmt":"2014-09-25T18:44:36","slug":"writing-the-book-on-gratitude-trust","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lesliedinaberg.com\/wordpress\/?p=6818","title":{"rendered":"Writing the Book on Gratitude &#038; Trust"},"content":{"rendered":"<h4><strong>Paul Williams and Tracey Jackson collaborate on new book that uses the principles of the recovery movement to help just about anybody<\/strong><\/h4>\n<p>Longtime friends\u2014the pair first met in <a title=\"Robert Mitchum\" href=\"http:\/\/www.imdb.com\/name\/nm0000053\/bio\" target=\"_blank\">Robert Mitchum<\/a>&#8216;s bedroom in 1982\u2014<a title=\"Paul Williams\" href=\"http:\/\/www.paulwilliamsofficial.com\/\" target=\"_blank\">Paul Williams<\/a> (yes, <em>that<\/em> Paul Williams, the Oscar-, Grammy- and Golden Globe-winning Hall of Fame songwriter) and <a title=\"Tracey Jackson\" href=\"http:\/\/www.traceyjacksononline.com\/\" target=\"_blank\">Tracey Jackson<\/a> (who write the films <a title=\"Confessions of a Shopaholic\" href=\"http:\/\/www.imdb.com\/title\/tt1093908\/\" target=\"_blank\"><em>Confessions of a Shopaholic<\/em><\/a> and <a title=\"The Guru\" href=\"http:\/\/www.imdb.com\/title\/tt0280720\/\" target=\"_blank\"><em>The Guru<\/em><\/a>, among others) had talked about doing a project together for years before inspiration finally struck.<\/p>\n<div id=\"attachment_35102\" style=\"width: 710px\" class=\"wp-caption aligncenter\"><img aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-35102\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"size-full wp-image-35102\" src=\"http:\/\/sbseasons.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/09\/10644340_522172484583961_1044295671694203342_o.jpg\" alt=\"Authors Paul Williams and Tracey Jackson will appear at Tecolote Book Shop in Montecito on Sept. 25. Photo courtesy Gratitude and Trust Facebook page.\" width=\"700\" height=\"700\" \/><p id=\"caption-attachment-35102\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Authors Paul Williams and Tracey Jackson will appear at Tecolote Book Shop in Montecito on Sept. 25. Photo courtesy Gratitude and Trust Facebook page.<\/p><\/div>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;I always had a fascination with the recovery movement. I always felt that it was a great foundation for all people and that all people should probably be required to go through it just on general principal,&#8221; says <a href=\"https:\/\/lesliedinaberg.com\/wordpress\/?p=4088\" target=\"_blank\">Jackson<\/a>, who grew up in Santa Barbara. &#8220;I had kind of always been envious of &#8230; Paul and various other friends in my life who had been in recovery and I had seen the difference it made in their lives.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Meanwhile, Williams starred in the 2012 documentary <em><a href=\"http:\/\/paulwilliamsstillalive.com\/\">Paul Williams, Still Alive<\/a><\/em>, and during a Q &amp; A after a screening of the film, &#8220;he mentioned his choo choo ran on the twin rails of gratitude and trust.&#8221; Jackson says, &#8220;the light bulb went off in my head and afterwards I said you know, that&#8217;s it. That&#8217;s a book, gratitude and trust.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>With a basic underlying theme of &#8220;recovery is not just for addicts,&#8221; the pair set out to make the project a reality, quickly developing a book proposal that sparked a bidding war and ultimately publishing under <a title=\"Blue Rider Press\" href=\"http:\/\/www.penguin.com\/meet\/publishers\/blueriderpress\/\" target=\"_blank\">Blue Rider Press<\/a>, a member of Penguin Group. They also launched a website, <a title=\"gratitudeandtrust.com\" href=\"http:\/\/gratitudeandtrust.com\" target=\"_blank\">gratitudeandtrust.com<\/a>, and immediately began connecting with readers.<\/p>\n<p>Williams, who will celebrate 25 years of sobriety on March 15, says, &#8220;For 24 years people had been saying to me, &#8216;I wish we had something like you have to turn our lives around and to clean up our lives, I wish we had some process like you have in recovery. &#8216; And I never really knew how to share that until &#8230;Tracey became a catalyst to finding a way to do it.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>He continues, &#8220;It&#8217;s been an amazing journey to write this book.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p><a title=\"Gratitude &amp; Trust \" href=\"http:\/\/www.amazon.com\/Gratitude-Trust-Affirmations-That-Change\/dp\/0399167196\" target=\"_blank\"><em>Gratitude &amp; Trust<\/em> <\/a>offers &#8220;Six Affirmations of Personal Freedom,&#8221; along with anecdotes and advice from both authors individually, as well as their collective voices. The six affirmations are:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>\n<pre>-Something needs to change, and it's probably me.<\/pre>\n<\/li>\n<li>\n<pre>-I don't know how to do this but something inside me does.<\/pre>\n<\/li>\n<li>\n<pre>-I will learn from my mistakes and defend them.<\/pre>\n<\/li>\n<li>\n<pre>-I will make right the wrongs I've done wherever possible.<\/pre>\n<\/li>\n<li>\n<pre>-I will continue to examine my behavior on a daily basis.<\/pre>\n<\/li>\n<li>\n<pre>-I will live my life in love and service, gratitude and trust.<\/pre>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>The beauty of these ideas is that they can work for a variety of problems.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Everyone starts life in a different place, everyone has different levels of dysfunction, everyone has different levels of needs. &#8230; I think that people will take what they need in the order and the intensity of which they need it, so that&#8217;s not up to us,&#8221; says Jackson. &#8220;Neither Paul nor I are obviously going to be able to clone ourselves and sit in thousands of living rooms and say okay, do the first step. But I\u2019m such a bossy person I probably would love to do that! &#8230;I could just Skype into people&#8217;s houses. Would you please go and apologize to your mom,&#8221; she laughs.<\/p>\n<p>Because the pair have been blogging from the beginning, they have lots of reader contact. &#8220;Food addiction is the biggest thing that comes up after people who are getting sober, are sober or are staying sober. &#8230; Some things require more spirituality, some things require more discipline, some requires they walk hand in hand. &#8230; It&#8217;s sort of a buffet,&#8221; says Jackson.<\/p>\n<p>Adds Williams, &#8220;The thing that I think that the six affirmations have in common with the 12 steps of <a title=\"Alcoholics Anonymous \" href=\"http:\/\/www.aa.org\/\" target=\"_blank\">Alcoholics Anonymous <\/a>is essentially it&#8217;s a toolbox &#8230; a good carpenter has a Phillips screwdriver, he&#8217;s got a hammer, he&#8217;s got a box of tools that are appropriate to the needs.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;I don&#8217;t think you really are as aware that you need it, &#8230; but the truth is until you really try it, you don&#8217;t realize how valuable it is,&#8221; says Jackson.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;There a couple chapters dealing with people who are kind of broken in your life. One is called Navigating the Nasties, which is about dealing with people that you&#8217;re not going to change but you&#8217;re going to be stuck with them, whether it&#8217;s a bad boss or a member of your family that is almost impossible to deal with,&#8221; says Williams. &#8220;The other one is there&#8217;s a chapter called The Ones We Love, about dealing with someone who is an alcoholic&#8230; It&#8217;s just a reminder that even though somebody may not feel they need the book, they don&#8217;t have anything broken to fix, I bet you they know somebody that does.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>While the advice in the book is helpful, the tone is still humorous.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Tracy has an edge to her,&#8221; laughs Williams. &#8220;She can be wonderfully quick and quick witted and defend herself, take care of herself, but I have seen a spiritual growth I think for both of us, and I have seen it in Tracey&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;But I like when I go back to being funny and edgy. I do I like that,&#8221; says Jackson.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Buy the book,&#8221; she says, with a laugh.<\/p>\n<p>You can do just that on Thursday, September 25, when the authors will be signing books\u2014and surely laughing along the way\u2014from 5-7 p.m. at <a title=\"Tecolote Book Store\" href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/pages\/Tecolote-Book-Shop\/114033125291072\" target=\"_blank\">Tecolote Book Store<\/a>, 1470 E. 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