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Category Archives: relationships

Sandra Tsing Loh Dishes on Menopause, Marriage and “The Madwoman in the Volvo”

by lesliedinaberg on May 8, 2014

Humorist/memoirist will appear at UCSB Campbell on Thursday, May 8 By Leslie Dinaberg Chatting with Sandra Tsing Loh—whose new book, The Madwoman in the Volvo, focuses on what she calls Generation Triple M  (Middle-Aged Moms in Menopause)—is a lot like reading one of her essays. Her level of frankness is engaging, enlightening and charming, kind […]

Jungle Mom

by lesliedinaberg on July 20, 2012

I pity the first girl who stomps on my son’s heart. I realized something about myself recently and it’s not very pretty. I may be an anti-violent, NPR-supporting, bleeding heart pacifist in theory, but when it comes right down to it-I would kill to prevent my son from suffering heartache. I may not be a […]

Death to Chit Chat

by lesliedinaberg on February 17, 2012

“Small talk is one step down from no talk.”-Jason Love I had a mid-life revelation this week. After a busy weekend standing around bonfires, barbecues and beaches talking about the weather (hot), sports (a good week at Appalachian State), and my child’s school’s spring break week, I realized something: I spend far too much of […]

The Keeper of the Calendar

by lesliedinaberg on January 27, 2012

For as long as I can remember, my girlfriends have been an important part of my life. We’ve graduated from Kool-Aid and cookies to brie and Cabernet and have gone from dissecting Barbie’s hairstyles to debating whether “Blonded by the Light” or “Brazen Raisin” will better cover up our grays, but one thing remains true […]

F is for Frenemy

by lesliedinaberg on November 11, 2011

A friendship, too, is a kind of romance-complete with possessiveness, jealousy and mistrust. -Nick Laird While sifting your friends from your foes should be straightforward, it’s not always obvious who’s got your back, and who’s getting ready to stab a knife in it. Friends are supposed to bring out the best in you, even when you’re […]

The guilt gene

by lesliedinaberg on August 26, 2011

G-U-I-L-T should really be a four-letter word. Years ago, when I was in full-blown rebellious teenage daughter mode, I jotted this quote down from Katherine Lee: “If there’s anything that can match the heights of mother-love, it’s the depths of mother-guilt.” Boy is that ever true. I was raised on a diet of guilt. Sure, […]

Is happiness overrated

by lesliedinaberg on July 15, 2011

“America’s youth are drowning in happiness,” says Aaron Cooper, Ph.D., a psychologist concerned about the rising rates of youth depression and anxiety. “Millions of well-intentioned parents have made life harder for their children by shielding the kids from every kind of unhappiness,” according to Cooper, who co- authored a book on the dangers when parents […]

Heating up to Fifty

by lesliedinaberg on March 4, 2011

Let me start out this column by saying that I am not 50 yet. I am nowhere near 50 years old. OK, the sum total of my journeys around the sun is not quite 50–yet–but I’m a heck of a lot closer to being 50 than I am to being 30. The fact that I […]

Tackling the Season Like a Man

by lesliedinaberg on December 10, 2010

One of the best pieces of advice I ever got was from my friend Ramey: “If you don’t want to be the only one doing all the work then you have to let other people do stuff using their own standards–no matter how crappy or inferior they may be.” She was talking about diaper rash […]

Defending Facebook Friends

by lesliedinaberg on November 5, 2010

Weak Ties Still Equal Strong Links Marlene Dietrich once said, “It’s the friends you call at 4 a.m. that really matter.” Agreed. But the friends whose walls you post on at 4 a.m. matter too. “Weak ties are your windows to the world,” wrote Stanford University sociologist Mark Granovetter back in 1973 in “The Strength […]